Me, me, me, me, me.
There’s a great country song by Toby Keith, “I Wanna Talk About Me.” It’s about a guy who has a girlfriend who likes to talk about herself. Most of the time, he loves to talk about her, but every once in a while, he wants to talk about himself.
It’s all about me
When you’re enmeshed in a quest to find your life purpose or to create your all, it’s tempting to look mostly inward. “What are my strengths? My weaknesses? What makes me smile?” And you should since it’s your life after all.
It’s also important to look outward and reflect on how you impact other people and how that can form part of your all. This advice comes from lesson three in Daniel H. Pink’s book, The Adventures of Johnny Bunko: The Last Career Guide You’ll Ever Need:
It’s not about you
Pink says you should look for a career (AKA a life purpose) where you can use your strengths, but not to the point of missing the point:
You’re here to serve, not self actualize.
If your strength is writing, for example, don’t turn every project you’re working on into an opportunity to pen a novel. You need to use your strengths to help the company, your boss, and your co-workers to make them look good. Because in the end it’ll help you look good.
The same thing goes when searching for life purpose. The better you can make others feel, the better you’ll feel, and the more likely you’ll be to fully live and love your all.
Now if only there was a country song for that.
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What do you think? Should you look inward or outward when searching for life purpose? Let me know in the comments here.