Who am I? Who are you?
It can be a big question if you dive into it.
Are we our jobs? Our roles in our families (mothers, wives, daughters)? Our actions (motivated self-starters)? Our joys (wine lovers, chocoholics)? Or, shudder, our fears (no good lagabouts, failures)?
What to do if you struggle with your identity
If you struggle with this question, as we all do from time to time, I invite you to change your focus.
Focus 1: Your values
Consider whether you are living according to your values. When we live in ways that conflict with our values, we experience turmoil, confusion, and dissatisfaction. Things just don’t feel right. Follow this link for some ways to uncover your values.
Once you have a list of your values, determine how you can adjust your life so that your day-to-day actions and activities align with those values.
Focus 2: Your wants
Rather than searching for your identity, which can cause even more confusion, focus on what you want to create in your life. What do you want? Why is that so important to you? How would you know if you got it? How will you get it? These are the principles of solution-focused coaching and they lead to tremendous results.
By focusing on living true to your values and going after the things you truly want in your life, your identity will naturally flow from there. And you’ll be well on the way to uncovering ingredients that will help you create your all—your unique version of having it all.
I’d love to hear from you. Which of the above focuses do you plan to do first and why? Leave your response in the comments.